The Relationship between Ideal Couple Standards and Marital Satisfaction
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personality self-knowledge, partner’s choice, ideal couple standards, marital satisfactionAbstract
The choice of the partner is made starting from aspects like proximity, resemblance, attraction, compatibility, choice and it ends with the decision of staying in the marital couple. The attraction expresses the desire to interact favourably with another person, a moment overwhelmed by specific emotions generated by proximity. Emphasizing the attraction and anticipating the interaction intervene in the game of relationship, in which emotions have an impact upon perception, cognition and evaluation of the partner. Forming a marital couple involves cohabitation of the two biological and psychical entities, alignment of their own interests with the ones of the partner’s, adjustment of each one’s personality. The relational and value-related side of personality improves the couple relationship by means of improving the interacting abilities. Adaptation to the family environment, to the life and work depends on interior life quality, on the self-knowledge of personality. The purpose of the research: checking the report between the dyadic adaptation level, ideal couple standards level, and the welfare degree of 30 couples, partners with ages between 26 - 47 years old, with a relationship experience of maximum 26 years, unemployed and employees, working in institutions in the city of Iasi. Used methods: evaluation scale for dyadic adaptation, checklist of specific relationship standards, evaluation scale for the welfare in the marital relationship. Expected outcome: the level of marital adaptation is high in the family with adequate relationship standards, the personal limits are positively associated with the level of independence, the balance between control and power is balanced, the expressive and instrumental investments are negatively associated with the self-acceptance level. The ideal standards regarding the personal limits are manifested when there is satisfaction and dyadic cohesion, a high level of dyadic unity and moderate level of affective expression.References
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